SM Club Etiquette

I have been asked by several people what it is like at the NY area clubs or about SM clubs in general. What happens there? What should I wear? How should I act? What are the rules... etc. So rather than having to tell people over and over the same thing.... Ta Da!!! I made a new page. (I'm so lazy.) : ) Ok.... I have only been to a few clubs in the area and a couple in cities I have visited so I am not trying to speak as a world traveling authority on DS clubs but I will tell you a bit from my experience. For the most part I feel the clubs are a great place to go to meet people with similar interests. Some are not as clean as others and to be honest, some are down right scuzzy. (I will not mention any names, I don't need a lawsuit.

Generally the same house rules apply at all, although some make exceptions depending on who is looking the other way. Best bet is to call to verify or ask someone who works there just to be sure. There is no sex permitted on site, that means oral, anal or vaginal intercourse allowed. Digital sex (fingers inside) is generally permitted as long as you use latex gloves. Also internal toys when permitted must be covered with a condom. Most allow nudity, and many allow masturbation. (Although, I personally find watching a dozen "wankers" walking around with their dicks in their hands distasteful) Waxing scenes usually must be approved, (they can be messy you know) but most other scenes are ok to do. No one will be forced to do anything, so first timers need have no fear of being molested unless you ask first. You are welcome to watch but there are two definite no-nos....

Not Ever Interrupt a scene in progress!!!

That means do not talk to either the sub or the Dom/me and do not get close enough to disturb them. This is very important, because concentration is paramount and disruptions can either bring a sub out of sub space there by causing him/her to feel extreme pain and/or cause the Dom/me to make a mistake.

Do Not Touch either another person or someone else's equipment!!

This is something we should have learned in kindergarten but a surprising number of people assume that they can pick up things that are displayed with out asking. Most Dom/mes are very proud of their toys and will be more than happy to show them off if you ask. Do so before touching anything. Also, it is not wise to touch any one you do not know. This should be obvious but I recall getting a massage in a club one night and some slimy male rubbed his dick against my feet. He was pretty lucky my crop was not handy.

All in all the behavior rules are a matter of respect, which is one of the primary elements of D/s